lovelights attic: More Thoughts on Love

Sunset at Rimrock, CA

“To fall in love is easy, even to remain in it is not difficult; our human loneliness is cause enough.

But it is a hard quest worth making to find a comrade through whose steady presence

one becomes steadily the person one desires to be.”

Anna Louise Strong

Sometimes when we fall in love with someone we see in that person all that we want within ourselves, all that we want to be. All that we have not been able to be by ourselves. We place our love and hope in that person expecting them to show us how to become like them, because we think that will make us complete.

However, we cannot expect the love object to be able to give us what we cannot give to ourselves. When we expect someone else to fulfill us in that way we are afraid to love and are waiting for the other to show us how to love. We want them to remove our fear and lack of self-love.

It can never be a fulfilling relationship when we go into one expecting to receive. What we put into love determines what we get out of it. If you love someone and you give completely of yourself with true desire to show them love and caring, kindness and respect, you will receive love in the same way. However, if you are just looking for them to give to you, the relationship is doomed from the start.

Real love comes from your soul with the ability to come together without barriers of egoism or personal needs.

Sunset at Rimrock, CA

When we love for what another can do for us or because we want them to fulfill our needs, or desire them to help us be who we want to become, we love with conditions. When we place conditions on love, it becomes selfish and turns to indifference or even hate.

If we love from selfishness, we cannot even see the love the other person has for us. We are too wrapped up in ourselves and because we do not understand how to love or because we fear love, we cannot give love to them either. We are stuck in a crazy relationship of wanting love but unable to give or receive. This leads to guilt and blame and the end of any love there might have been.

Real love, true love has to be unselfish, committed to each other, caring, giving, and sharing. Reaching within and finding the spirit of both persons to connect with a holy relationship, based on love of God. Both becoming who they truly are through their soul connections.

Sunset at Rimrock, CA

Real love opens as a light from within covering, caressing, soaring to complete the other--It is joyous, wonderful and awakens all desires of completeness--Love!!!

“True love does not come by finding the perfect person,

but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”

Jason Jordan